As Northwestern State University of Louisiana’s students travel back home for the holidays, there are usually hot topics bound to be brought up at the dinner table.
After the conclusion of the 2024 presidential election, many students are preparing themselves for what the holiday season will look like at home, regardless of what party or candidate they chose to support.
If your family is the type to bring up politics, you are often put in difficult situations. No one really talks about what to do in those uncomfortable situations; just know you’re not alone, no matter how isolated you feel.
When I’m put in these situations, I often ask myself: Do I engage in conversation and potentially get attacked for my opinion? Do I keep my mouth shut and protect my peace for as long as I can? Where is the dog so I can find an excuse to escape this conversation?
According to an article written by the Evergreen Psychotherapy Center, there are a few strategies and tips to get you through the holiday season while still having healthy communication with your family.
Firstly, don’t expect or try to change another family member’s mind. This will probably spark a frustrating argument that won’t end well during this time of joyful cheer. If you do end up bringing up topics relating to politics or social issues, make sure you watch your tone and approach the conversation with respect and kindness.
Even if you don’t agree with another family member’s belief, you should still take the time to listen. Being all ears is key to healthy communication, and you may even change your perspective on something. This also helps the other person feel validated and heard, which could potentially diffuse the conflict.
When the conversation feels like it’s getting out of hand, you can try to divert the conversation to another topic like complimenting the hosts’ food or what goals you have going into the new year. Even when you remain respectful as you engage in a conversation, you need to know when to step away.
If you choose to engage in a conversation, just remember that you’re speaking with your family. The article by Evergreen Psychotherapy Center reads, “Remind yourself that you love the people you disagree with. It’s easy to become derailed in a relationship when anger and resentment build. Just because family members have different beliefs, they are not the enemy.”
Whether you choose to engage in conversation or not, just know that it is okay to feel uncomfortable during this time. Coming from a non-confrontational person and someone who is afraid of arguments, I often just stay silent and try to redirect the conversation toward something more positive.
Remember that you are entitled to your own opinion which you don’t have to share with anyone else. It is important to take note of your environment and how your family could potentially react to a certain topic. Make sure that, if you do decide to speak up, you are safe while doing so.
Although it can seem scary when hot topics are brought up, they don’t always have to be negative. You could spark an honest and open conversation with your family.
Certain political and social issues need to be talked about, but maybe while your uncle is carving the turkey or while you’re helping your mom wrap presents isn’t the best time or place.
You never know what could happen, so don’t expect the worst and over-analyze what could happen. I know it’s easier said than done but focus on being present and in the moment with your family, and have a safe, fun time as you travel home for the holidays.
